Why didn't they tell me?
Pregnancy, Birth, Motherhood. Wow, what a rollercoaster it all is. Any mom knows how it is - you host playdates or meet at the park with friends and you chat. We love it, can't get enough. Adult conversation! Its fabulous…. Even if you are nursing the whole time or telling your toddler to stop shoving mulch down their pants. The good, the bad and the ugly topics come up. Seems like there is soooo much we didn’t know before our babies were born. We created a list of some of the things people forgot to tell us:
1. Car seats are not necessarily a piece of cake. You need to read the manual (once maybe twice) , learn the laws and install it correctly to keep the baby safe. That “baby on board” stick-on is cute but its not enough.
2. Breastfeeding- You will make colostrum first. It IS enough for your baby. I repeat it IS enough for your baby. A few weeks later you may find your baby begining to cluster feeding.
3. Hunger - speaking off breastfeeding….Oh man will you be hungry. Before the baby comes cook meals and freeze them, lots of them. Stock your home with snacks that are healthy and easily eaten with one hand. Always have water nearby, you will be thirsty too.
4. Crying- Lots of it. You will cry. Your baby will cry. You will cry again. The hormones are crazier than ever. Be gentle with yourself and reach for extra support in the home. A postpartum doula can give offer you so much during your recovery. If family/friends offer to help out, let them!
5. Visitors- People will want to see you and meet the new baby. You may not want to see them. That’s ok. Speak up for yourself if you aren’t wanting company. Rest, eat, snuggle your new baby and repeat.
.6. Oh the pain- weather you had a c-section or vaginal birth you will feel sore . Perineal ice packs and sitz baths are your friends. Hold a pillow over your incision if you feel a laugh or a sneeze coming on. OH no … not a sneeze.
7. Trust yourself- you are the mama, you know what’s best for your baby. Don’t doubt yourself. Never hesitate to ask questions of your care providers if/when you need to. But you are the boss of you and your baby.
8. Co-sleeping- it isn’t a mortal sin and cribs are not the devil. Do some reading, maybe some furniture rearranging and do what works best for you and your family.
9.Leaking- you leak, a lot. From your breast, from down there.
10.Other random things- you don’t really “ need” all the things the suggested registry said you needed, sometimes you lose a lot of hair, it can hurt to poop (I had a client tell me we need to offer doula support to get through that first poop).
Welcome to motherhood my friend!